One of my cousins is getting married next week. Though we've been planning on spending some time together, it dint really work out. Finally we could coincidentally meet at my parents' place the other day.
After casually yapping about the shopping details, the discussion moved towards 'pre-nuptial anxiety'.
Anxious and excited, my cousin was really in a confused frame of mind. She isn't even married yet, but is already worrying about losing her freedom! She worried about how she'd mingle-mix with her soon-to-be-husband's family. All in all she was a very stressed. I could connect to her very well..actually could understand her thoughts because I've been through it not long ago!
I remember feeling anxious, restless and stressed out as my wedding date drew closer. I wondered if I'm going to lose my freedom forever. Silly thoughts like being addressed as 'aunty' possessed me :) The whole idea of setting up your own home, scared me no end. I thought I'd be doomed to the kitchen and all such mundane chores that come with an independent setup! Shopping for long hours , running around for petty things & going to bed dead tired, dint help either. Actually, I started worrying about all the finer details of the wedding arrangements, inspite of being aware that my dad is already taking good care of them. I fussed about not getting enough time to relax. Complained about having to work till about 3 days before my wedding ( yeah, leave planning is not my cup of tea!).All in all, I'm ashamed to admit that I made life miserable for myself and others around me.
I recollect how I nagged poor hubby dear with all my growing fears/anxieties. I'm really grateful to him for lending a patient ear to my rants. He'd calm me and reassure me that he is going to be by my side through thick and thin. To this day, he stuck by his word and never shies away when it comes to helping me out with the dishes, cooking or any of the other household chores. I should admit,I'm very proud of him.
I digress though. Yes, pre-wedding blues are common. Every person has his/her own way of reacting to losing that 'single' status. There are people like my husband, who really look forward to it, enjoy and treasure every moment - since marriage is 'once in a lifetime' thing. And then, there are others like me, who get hyper-stressed and worry about every little thing.
If you are interested in reading more about 'pre-wedding-blues', you can find a good article here
